with gratitude, as always, to Fred – gentle, honest and kind; and to Lisa Congdon, illustrator extraordinaire
Focusing on what is important to each of you and both of you, will help you decide the promises you want to make each other, and what and who to incorporate in your ceremony.
I ask couples to reflect on why they’ve chosen to commit to each other, and I suggest making and taking some well-spent time out both together and independently to think about this. I provide a long list of questions to act as prompts.
Here’s one..two…three for today:
Who are the significant others in your relationship?
This is a very important question:
- those who matter to each of you will somehow become part of, influence, affect, enhance your marriage
- recognising this early can assist you in embracing and nurturing these relationships
- they won’t always be your favourites – acknowledging this now will help you to develop strategies for these relationships in your future, and
- think about who of these people you want to include, acknowledge, thank in your wedding ceremony, and how you might do that… (ideas about this is where I come in…..)