Rituals: what are they, why include them?
There are many rituals (often referred to as ceremonies or rites) within marriage and commitment ceremonies: some are religious, some cultural traditions, others’ origins aren’t known.
The exchange of rings is a common ritual – the ring symbolises endless love: it has no beginning, it has no end…and it’s a physical illustration of your commitment. (There’s no requirement for wedding rings, it’s a personal choice for each of you.)
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Another very common ritual in Australia is the ‘giving away’ / presentation of the bride (and groom) .
Including a ritual with special meaning for you in your ceremony will add quality, depth and distinction: it’s an opportunity to reflect and illustrate your personalities; to demonstrate and reinforce your values and beliefs – about marriage, union, family, culture and heritage….and love.
This is a means to include, actively involve, honour, or symbolically join your families and guests in your ceremony.
Rituals may be performed by, and include anyone you choose.
I’ll give you a range of ideas, and refer you to others if you wish…
The naming ceremony you put together for Brodie was such a beautiful and special day for (us) all – it meant so much to us to have chosen you to share the experience with us. You’re an amazing celebrant… You had some amazing ideas; all the hard work you put in, and all the behind the scenes work you did definitely showed in the presentation.
Thank you so much again. I highly recommend you to others if they’re looking for a great, and easy going celebrant.
Lately I’ve been reading in wedding forums about celebrants’ fees, in particular that some celebrants are blatantly undercutting others in order to get the business.
It seems all very dog-eat-dog… And considering how much is spent on some weddings, and the amount of work a professional celebrant does in creating a high quality ceremony, even the most expensive is very good value!
I’ve just been doing some research and I came across celebrant guru Dally Messenger’s
“What is a fair fee? Do you want a 1 or a 5 Diamond Celebrant?”
It makes a lot of sense – worth a look:
As a bride said to me recently:
“you pay peanuts, you get …….”
Well, you know the rest!
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Focusing on what is important to each of you and both of you, will help you decide the promises you want to make each other, and what and who to incorporate in your ceremony.
I ask couples to reflect on why they’ve chosen to commit to each other, and I suggest making and taking some well-spent time out both together and independently to think about this. I provide a long list of questions to act as prompts.
Here’s one..two…three for today:
Who are the significant others in your relationship?
This is a very important question:
- those who matter to each of you will somehow become part of, influence, affect, enhance your marriage
- recognising this early can assist you in embracing and nurturing these relationships
- they won’t always be your favourites – acknowledging this now will help you to develop strategies for these relationships in your future, and
- think about who of these people you want to include, acknowledge, thank in your wedding ceremony, and how you might do that… (ideas about this is where I come in…..)
a really happy marriage of love and judgement is one of the things so very handsome that if the sun were, as the Greek poets fabled, a god
he might stop the world and hold it still now and then
in order to look all day long on some example thereof,
and feast his eyes on such a spectacle
Anne Morrow Lindbergh
Focusing on what is important – to each of you and both of you – will help you decide the promises you want to make each other.
I ask couples to reflect on their relationship, on why they’ve chosen to commit to each other, and I suggest time out both together and independently to think about this.
I provide a long list of questions to act as prompts.
Here’s a big one:
Where do you see yourselves in five years?
Another: Where do you see yourselves in ten years?
And another: Where do you see yourselves in twenty years?
US? One thing we did was we made a rule ‘there are no rules’. (Didn’t see this one coming!)
As part of the process of preparing for their wedding ceremony, I ask couples to reflect why they’ve decided to formally commit to each other, and I suggest they take some time out to really focus on this. I provide them a long list of questions.
Here’s one for today:
Most memorable shared experience?
Ours? ...the most wonderful time at the end of a 6 month adventure…we celebrated 2 years married in a hut on the beach in true paradise El Nido. Fred bought the only bubbles in the village, it was corked, looked like beer, tasted just as it looks…and is one of our most precious memories.