Don’t ever stop loving,
don’t ever stop believing,
don’t ever stop dreaming your dreams.
a really happy marriage of love and judgement is one of the things so very handsome that if the sun were, as the Greek poets fabled, a god
in order to look all day long on some example thereof,
and feast his eyes on such a spectacle
Focusing on what is important – to each of you and both of you – will help you decide the promises you want to make each other.
I ask couples to reflect on their relationship, on why they’ve chosen to commit to each other, and I suggest time out both together and independently to think about this.
I provide a long list of questions to act as prompts.
Here’s a big one:
Where do you see yourselves in five years?
Another: Where do you see yourselves in ten years?
And another: Where do you see yourselves in twenty years?
US? One thing we did was we made a rule ‘there are no rules’. (Didn’t see this one coming!)