R. . . rituals..rites..rings

Rituals: what are they, why include them?

There are many rituals (often referred to as ceremonies or rites) within marriage and commitment ceremonies: some are religious, some cultural traditions, others’ origins aren’t known.

The exchange of rings is a common ritual – the ring symbolises endless love: it has no beginning, it has no end…and it’s a physical illustration of your commitment.  (There’s no requirement for wedding rings, it’s a personal choice for each of you.)

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Another very common ritual in Australia is  the ‘giving away’ / presentation of the bride (and groom) .

Including a ritual with special meaning for you in your ceremony will add quality, depth and distinction: it’s an opportunity to reflect  and illustrate your personalities; to demonstrate and reinforce your values and beliefs – about marriage, union, family, culture and heritage….and love.

This is a means to include, actively involve, honour, or symbolically join your families and guests in your ceremony.  

Rituals may be performed by, and include anyone you choose.

I’ll give you a range of ideas, and refer you to others if you wish…

nice!

Hi Lib

The naming ceremony you put together for Brodie was such a beautiful and special day for (us) all – it meant so much to us to have chosen you to share the experience with us. You’re an amazing celebrant… You had some amazing ideas; all the hard work you put in, and all the behind the scenes work you did definitely showed in the presentation.

Thank you so much again. I highly recommend you to others if they’re looking for a great, and easy going celebrant.

Ammie 10/3/16

talking about quality, animals, celebrants and diamonds

Lately I’ve been reading in wedding forums about celebrants’ fees, in particular that some celebrants are blatantly undercutting others in order to get the business.

It seems all very dog-eat-dog…  And considering how much is spent on some weddings, and the amount of work a professional celebrant does in creating a high quality ceremony, even the most expensive is very good value!

I’ve just been doing some research and I came across celebrant guru Dally Messenger’s 

“What is a fair fee? Do you want a 1 or a 5 Diamond Celebrant?”                                           

It makes a lot of sense – worth a look:

http://www.collegeofcelebrancy.com.au/Pages/5Diamond.html 

professional celebrant who makes you feel like her only clientAs a bride said to me recently:                                            

“you pay peanuts, you get …….”  

Well, you know the rest!

significant others

Focusing on what is important to each of you and both of you,  will help you decide the promises you want to make each other, and what and who to incorporate in your ceremony.

I ask couples to reflect on why they’ve chosen to commit to each other, and  I suggest making and taking some well-spent time out both together and independently to think about this. I provide a long list of questions to act as prompts.

Here’s one..two…three for today:

Who are the significant others in your relationship?

This is a very important question:

  • those who matter to each of you will somehow become part of, influence, affect, enhance your marriage
  • recognising this early can assist you in embracing and nurturing these relationships
  • they won’t always be your favourites – acknowledging this now will help you to develop strategies for these relationships in your future, and
  • think about who of these people you want to include, acknowledge, thank in your wedding ceremony, and how you might do that… (ideas about this is where I come in…..)

What is your story? Your unique and wonderful story?

Focusing on what is important to each of you and both of you,  will help you decide the promises you want to make each other, and what and who to incorporate in your ceremony.

I ask couples to reflect on why they’ve chosen to commit to each other, and  I suggest making and taking some well-spent time out both together and independently to think about this. I provide a long list of questions to act as prompts.

Here’s one for today:

♥  What’s the biggest compliment you could give your partner? ♥ 

KONICA MINOLTA DIGITAL CAMERA  Mine… He’s kind –

to everyone.

What kind of ceremony shall we cook up?

Creating a marriage ceremony’s a bit like cooking… and you’re the ingredients.

After familiarising myself with your flavours and colours and aromas and textures I’ll be your chef, and create the ceremony.

You’ll then check for taste and presentation, and I’ll adjust the seasoning and plating accordingly.

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Then your guests have the honour and pleasure of sharing in this creation that tastes, looks, smells and feels like no other ceremony, one that can never be replicated.

giving your ceremony quality, depth, distinction

There are many rituals, ceremonies or rites that can be included in marriage and commitment ceremonies: some are cultural or religious traditions, others are of unknown origin.

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In Australia, rituals such as exchange of rings, and giving away / presentation of the bride (and groom) are common.

Including a ritual with special meaning for you will give your ceremony quality, depth and distinction. It’s an opportunity to:

♦ reflect your personalities

demonstrate, reinforce and honour your values and beliefs about 

   ♦♦ marriage ♦♦ union ♦♦ family ♦♦ culture ♦♦ and heritage ♦♦

include and actively involve your families / guests , or to

symbolically join your families as part of your ceremony….and 

               rituals may be performed by and include whoever you wish.