talking about quality, animals, celebrants and diamonds

Lately I’ve been reading in wedding forums about celebrants’ fees, in particular that some celebrants are blatantly undercutting others in order to get the business.

It seems all very dog-eat-dog…  And considering how much is spent on some weddings, and the amount of work a professional celebrant does in creating a high quality ceremony, even the most expensive is very good value!

I’ve just been doing some research and I came across celebrant guru Dally Messenger’s 

“What is a fair fee? Do you want a 1 or a 5 Diamond Celebrant?”                                           

It makes a lot of sense – worth a look:

http://www.collegeofcelebrancy.com.au/Pages/5Diamond.html 

professional celebrant who makes you feel like her only clientAs a bride said to me recently:                                            

“you pay peanuts, you get …….”  

Well, you know the rest!

your unique* [yoo-neek] dream package keepsake

my ‘dream’ wedding ceremony package (i.e. your dream wedding ceremony) is for couples who want a personalised ceremony, an all-inclusive comprehensive, premium level of service: resources, ideas, professionally written ceremony, end-to-end support –

plus your choice of one of:

best celebrant ever

your own story or your vows – bespoke timeless unique framed keepsake

  • a framed handwritten keepsake of ‘your story’, or
  • your vows – framed handwritten keepsake, or
  • a hard-bound book of your ceremony (using photos provided by you); or if you prefer,
  • ‘your story’ published on my website.

shoes go out of fashion, limo rides fade from memory, but promises are forever… 

*UNIQUE   –  [yoo-neek]  –  adjective

1. existing as the only one or as the sole example; single; solitary in type or characteristics
2. having no like or equal; unparalleled; incomparable

 

significant others

Focusing on what is important to each of you and both of you,  will help you decide the promises you want to make each other, and what and who to incorporate in your ceremony.

I ask couples to reflect on why they’ve chosen to commit to each other, and  I suggest making and taking some well-spent time out both together and independently to think about this. I provide a long list of questions to act as prompts.

Here’s one..two…three for today:

Who are the significant others in your relationship?

This is a very important question:

  • those who matter to each of you will somehow become part of, influence, affect, enhance your marriage
  • recognising this early can assist you in embracing and nurturing these relationships
  • they won’t always be your favourites – acknowledging this now will help you to develop strategies for these relationships in your future, and
  • think about who of these people you want to include, acknowledge, thank in your wedding ceremony, and how you might do that… (ideas about this is where I come in…..)

What is your story? Your unique and wonderful story?

Focusing on what is important to each of you and both of you,  will help you decide the promises you want to make each other, and what and who to incorporate in your ceremony.

I ask couples to reflect on why they’ve chosen to commit to each other, and  I suggest making and taking some well-spent time out both together and independently to think about this. I provide a long list of questions to act as prompts.

Here’s one for today:

♥  What’s the biggest compliment you could give your partner? ♥ 

KONICA MINOLTA DIGITAL CAMERA  Mine… He’s kind –

to everyone.

love this…. and him… (and her)..

The only people for me are the mad ones – Jack Kerouac (from ‘On the Road’)

best dancer everThe only people for me are the mad ones,

the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved,

desirous of everything at the same time,  

the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, 

but burn, burn, burn like fabulous yellow roman candles  exploding like spiders across the stars.

Open your eyes

(from) Text for tired eyes – Tyler Knott Gregson

cropped-imgp1978.jpgOpen your eyes.

This is to the sound of my name in your mouth,

the way it dances off your tongue and leapfrogs through the air to find me again.

To the whispers and the screams, and the muted mumblings of your tired morning voice

and the words you don’t remember saying. and the ones you do.

This is to the heart that’s too big for your body

and to your body, that’s too small to hold all your dreams…