Rituals: what are they, why include them?
There are many rituals (often referred to as ceremonies or rites) within marriage and commitment ceremonies: some are religious, some cultural traditions, others’ origins aren’t known.
The exchange of rings is a common ritual – the ring symbolises endless love: it has no beginning, it has no end…and it’s a physical illustration of your commitment. (There’s no requirement for wedding rings, it’s a personal choice for each of you.)
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Another very common ritual in Australia is the ‘giving away’ / presentation of the bride (and groom) .
Including a ritual with special meaning for you in your ceremony will add quality, depth and distinction: it’s an opportunity to reflect and illustrate your personalities; to demonstrate and reinforce your values and beliefs – about marriage, union, family, culture and heritage….and love.
This is a means to include, actively involve, honour, or symbolically join your families and guests in your ceremony.
Rituals may be performed by, and include anyone you choose.
I’ll give you a range of ideas, and refer you to others if you wish…
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Focusing on what is important – to each of you and both of you – will help you decide the promises you want to make each other.
I ask couples to reflect on their relationship, on why they’ve chosen to commit to each other, and I suggest time out both together and independently to think about this.
I provide a long list of questions to act as prompts.
Here’s a big one:
Where do you see yourselves in five years?
Another: Where do you see yourselves in ten years?
And another: Where do you see yourselves in twenty years?
US? One thing we did was we made a rule ‘there are no rules’. (Didn’t see this one coming!)
As part of the process of preparing for their wedding ceremony, I ask couples to reflect why they’ve decided to formally commit to each other, and I suggest they take some time out to really focus on this. I provide them a long list of questions.
Here’s one to think about today:
What’s your funniest experience together?
My answer is….
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