R. . . rituals..rites..rings

Rituals: what are they, why include them?

There are many rituals (often referred to as ceremonies or rites) within marriage and commitment ceremonies: some are religious, some cultural traditions, others’ origins aren’t known.

The exchange of rings is a common ritual – the ring symbolises endless love: it has no beginning, it has no end…and it’s a physical illustration of your commitment.  (There’s no requirement for wedding rings, it’s a personal choice for each of you.)

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Another very common ritual in Australia is  the ‘giving away’ / presentation of the bride (and groom) .

Including a ritual with special meaning for you in your ceremony will add quality, depth and distinction: it’s an opportunity to reflect  and illustrate your personalities; to demonstrate and reinforce your values and beliefs – about marriage, union, family, culture and heritage….and love.

This is a means to include, actively involve, honour, or symbolically join your families and guests in your ceremony.  

Rituals may be performed by, and include anyone you choose.

I’ll give you a range of ideas, and refer you to others if you wish…

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Hi Lib

The naming ceremony you put together for Brodie was such a beautiful and special day for (us) all – it meant so much to us to have chosen you to share the experience with us. You’re an amazing celebrant… You had some amazing ideas; all the hard work you put in, and all the behind the scenes work you did definitely showed in the presentation.

Thank you so much again. I highly recommend you to others if they’re looking for a great, and easy going celebrant.

Ammie 10/3/16

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where do you see yourselves in five years? ten? twenty?

Focusing on what is important – to each of you and both of you – will help you decide the promises you want to make each other.

I ask couples to reflect on their relationship, on why they’ve chosen to commit to each other, and  I suggest time out both together and independently to think about this.

I provide a long list of questions to act as prompts.

Here’s a big one:

Where do you see yourselves in five years? 

Another: Where do you see yourselves in ten years?

And another: Where do you see yourselves in twenty years?

US? One thing we did was we made a rule ‘there are no rules’. (Didn’t see this one coming!)

 

Laughing with your other…

As part of the process of preparing for their wedding ceremony, I ask couples to reflect why they’ve decided to formally commit to each other, and I suggest they take some time out to really focus on this. I provide them a long list of questions.

Here’s one to think about today:

What’s your funniest experience together?

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My answer is….

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