Focusing on what is important – to each of you and both of you – will help you decide the promises you want to make each other.
I ask couples to reflect on their relationship, on why they’ve chosen to commit to each other, and I suggest time out both together and independently to think about this.
I provide a long list of questions to act as prompts.
Here’s a big one:
Where do you see yourselves in five years?
Another: Where do you see yourselves in ten years?
And another: Where do you see yourselves in twenty years?
US? One thing we did was we made a rule ‘there are no rules’. (Didn’t see this one coming!)